I have a friend named Ian...I learned a lot from what he said to my email. " I had a huge problem accepting the changes that I saw going on in my life 10 years ago, personally, physically and emotionally. As I have explained I have worked all these problems through and am happy with who and what I am. My thoughts are...This is life DEAL with it. What you see is what you get." So there you are. Hope poeple will learn from this lines also...